Carnegie effect fourteen

 Carnegie was not satisfied with the impact of his class, he plans to promote a wider scope of his career, so more people can benefit from his program and be successful.
1937, Dell . Carnegie in the will be, will be the nation's fastest-selling book base resistance, word writes.
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advertising described in detail on how the course work .1937, with sixteen formal curriculum (now fourteen), the classroom is the hotel's private dining room. Section first part of the course for dinner. there are nine games in Tuesday night's speech, including speech, happy to recommend the names of five hundred and twenty people; a summary of all the course content.
Carnegie pleased that Tuesday night's speech attracted a lot of the audience, very hot.
in a The atmosphere was very warm audience Tuesday night, Carnegie made a wonderful speech, entitled eager and expectant eyes, cheerful tribute to the highly anticipated of Carnegie.
in bursts of applause and cheering, Carnegie boarded the platform.
. God's eyes, scanning the audience. He smiled, nodded to us frequently. He stood on the podium, showing the elegance and grace.
the audience clapping.
Start and friends present here today, the exchange of good faith. , it is a lot of pain. The reason why many people prefer to pay a heavy price to keep one or two friends have friends, peace in my heart because that is something to a good destination when they talk. In addition, there is another 'based on the consciousness' of the situation, it is: You try to talk with others about ways to awareness. For example, you ask someone to do one thing, others promise you, this is about the people you have the will.
; second, based on feelings, we usually called a feel for the purpose of starting a conversation with each other, prompting some to enhance their feelings.
kinds of things, or for a certain thing and ask someone, and so. The entertainment purposes which category. is the first? second?, or third? in determining the after, and go to. Remember that you are to succeed, not fail, we must move forward towards the goal Do not complicate the issue and goals to do something totally different things contrary.
telling your friends Hengmeilengdui, glare.
A different language. because you speak different, sounds different there. This is when we are in the entertainment special care had to be. .
the visit and asked about the things that the red coat, the question is asked the following different ways:
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is not pink? 'This is obsessive. base below.
Carnegie said:
type also do not feel happy. She laughed and said: 'Why do not they ask me that coat is light green or dark green? the case, I will readily answer' is red '. go:
Do you think this holiday is not the movie is not good, right? 'I did not hear the other side of the answer, because the moment I can not think how to answer this question, answer' YES ', or is it' is not no '? problem is is puzzling. , and should be based on the indirect method is appropriate. to have a retired officer, had ninety-year-old old. He has brought decades of retirement, each time by his granddaughter to the parties entitled to it. One time, the Treasury changed a new staff, he salaried roster who saw the birth year was written in 1840, do the math is nearly hundred years old, thinking of his children and grandchildren will not intentionally concealed the death of salaried people to falsely claim pension it?
How old can have? 'listener understand each other What is the purpose of course, they answered:' Ninety-year-old this year, thanks to you he was still alive. 'staff suddenly becomes extremely embarrassed, quickly apologized and said with words:' is it? Congratulations, you have a long life of ease. 'only to reverse the tense atmosphere.
For the ladies, asking them to Christina geometry of this year, believe it may be considered an insult. Here I give you a success. forced chosen as the original number one insurance salesman with the President, often in the following way to ask someone older: He first asked each other: 'Look how old I am you?' dialogue answered: 'Thirty-five years old, right?' So with the original says' do you think potential, and I am Thirty ', then he deliberately put the other estimates are younger,' you, I see forty, three, right?''where, 'replied the other side very happy, he said,' I'm forty eight years old. 'the belly, you ask her to their 'What you are pregnant', not as good as said:
know each other through another friend, and you have to, and his new friend contacts, then you should first notify the old man. If you direct contact with each other a long time, if he exception. Otherwise, inform you of an old friend who is absolutely necessary.
it is no longer looking for opportunities to meet with three people. For this friend, friends give him a nickname, called l direct dial telephone 'all of these things had a lesson, 'Carnegie said, You also risk a 'direct' way, in case other things exposed, your old friend will be very unpleasant. :
B, this is absolutely for the good, maybe a B will do its utmost to help solve the problem.
close friends, this of course goes without saying; phase if it is not very familiar with, it is necessary to try to look at.
steps to implement your entertainment only.
applause. so wonderful and plain speech, not only gives people the knowledge and skills, but also to bring people to enjoy the beauty of language.
Carnegie speech that attracted a lot of listeners. Because there are too many would have refused to entertain the masses gathering Astor Hotel. hotel staff explained that too many people will be formed on the hotel facilities within the greater pressure.
other hand, the influx of people also applied to the Carnegie tremendous pressure. In his book also has a dramatic color.
Carnegie recognized that a person living in the mythology is very difficult, people like the characters sent to a very high value from the look. you should follow the people look forward to all acts The way to do it. Your words and acts, are subject to strong public concern. you must be careful to avoid any mistakes. If you accidentally happened beneath your public image thing, then you admirers because of your mistakes and suffering disappointment. This way, you deserve your respect and admiration in those who had. After that, your heart will be self-blame, and you no longer had a clear conscience. In addition, if you famous , it means you do not have freedom. Whether you're in there, once people recognize that you are certain celebrities would flock to ask you to sign and asked you a photo. You will receive an avalanche of invitations invite you to attend a variety of parties, parties, seminars, celebrations and the like. Each is an invitation to host important, are there face, you can not refuse, if you are not denied to the people ; face practice, then you have to give is not exhausted. This is the Shengmingzhilei, which is many people expect, so you run away, will ply you mention some cunning problems will accumulate to spy at the heart of your privacy, and then concocted exaggeration and pages of long-term affair Yan Wen Confidential, which makes you ridiculous . a variety of newspapers and magazines want you to feed, introduce your success, to talk to you about views on life, comments on the social hot spots. In short, you are untouchables, not off the hide also hide. You have to do everything possible to coordinate the various aspects of the relations, you have to think hard to deal with in a variety of occasions. One is the worry about things you already do a fine from exhausted, and what you talk about your career continue to flourish it?
now, Dell. Carnegie Alumni Jiuzheng suffering from the sufferings of this Shengmingzhilei.
farm from Missouri who came out of celebrities, academia giant, now found in the prestigious order The capability to live a life under the tired, it is not possible.
on the podium, Carnegie is still high-spirited, emotional high. However, once walked down the platform, he became quiet, taciturn, with a teach interpersonal skills, a far cry from the master.
He tried to avoid attention, he repeatedly replaced at the banquet table, in an attempt to avoid a large number of enthusiastic readers.
Andrew Carnegie to deal with these entertaining colleagues put forward his views:
I was just Dell. Carnegie, just an ordinary teachers teaching adult education courses, but nothing can be disclosed should be in the back.
like sales. so people expect me to be some kind of 'beyond the world' the distinctive character. However, when a stranger met me, after I began to realize that they will find that I actually like their next door neighbor, and is not a theatrical personalities. Later, they get disappointed, and this will also be embarrassed that I was embarrassed. That is why I invite strangers to avoid any possible causes. avoidance can not guarantee an invitation back to the previous lifestyle. Therefore, ; Dell. Carnegie Effective Speaking and Interpersonal organization attitude towards the situation of recession. He dissected thirty-five employees, closed its forty-second Street, Manhattan, business office, and the business moved to the Sen Linqiu his own home.
the effect of both the Carnegie course caused a sensation, it also brings trouble, but in any case, this situation is the cause of the recognition and evaluation of Carnegie. Carnegie effect not only in speech, but also in the life and work of students impact on.
Carnegie courses for teachers in lectures, students are required to report their relationships under different conditions applied the principle of the case. both praised and affirmed, and make useful building.
Carnegie course, a student, one day saw his assistant sitting in a chair, feet that Rocker at the desk, doing nothing, and his desk is filled with documents, he would like this assistance into the room to call him a scolding. He reported on in the classroom, said: of paternity him. I asked him casually about something, and then push all the work I said to me, no way I could finish. l Do you have any way to change our working conditions? 'I asked him. He proposed several ways, we discussed a while. Then he said: do something. I reached my goal, but did not insult him, did not lead the other offensive. quickly and solemnly recognized. Some people think that to admit its mistakes is that they have shortcomings. However, if a person is wrong, the next step after recognition is easy to do, good interpersonal relationships is based on honesty, honesty to admit its mistakes is the relationship between access to the key to the door.
California Shajia La Du City, a door to teach fourth-grade teacher Susan. Ximan Shi wife are saying, enough to prove the principle of right. She said, Meng Yao He walked over and said, 'you go to the corridor waiting to go, I do not want to see you.'
, then the whole class said: 'Boys, I have a bad temper for my case to apologize to you. Just now I was wrong mm was not his fault. I'm sorry, especially not the other. I want to be more patient. 'That day all the time remaining for the better. I warned them that I was not comfortable, ask them to behave well, in fact, the children can not fully understand, so there is no attention. But I admit my mistake not his fault after they know their rules. I think I was the first teacher asked them to apologize. g is a heating, air conditioning air conditioners patented manufacturing company representatives, he found himself in a very bad case. his company and a sheet metal company to do business, and some fans are to be sent to the city a building construction, this sheet metal company called and asked fans to send to, but because the company completed the grams of errors, not the fans get out. metal plates in charge of the company failed to get the electricity at the scheduled time fans, very angry, that not only will no longer be doing business with the completion of grams and grams to sue the company did not complete on time delivery, the Secretary to pay a fine of Bike Gong. BYK other official finished, replied that : trucks, go to the company brought to the fans. fined by the contracts that a sanctions. Beek said that if did not go to Carnegie course, do not know the relationship of this principle, he may be angry, but also loses his temper, or the wrong onto others, or speak on the attitude of the person in charge dissatisfied. Results As he admitted mistakes, he also saved the customer.
every salesman knows, 'make things to sell, first of all have to lure buyers so that he has accepted the state of mind. To do this, a salesman on his way to give buyers all the basic issues raised by them are used skills, Carnegie does not agree with this. In fact, all agree Carnegie courses are full of atmosphere. He said: principle. Socrates asked him to come to the conclusion.
Carnegie teaching each class use this method of Socrates, the teacher agreed with the atmosphere in a teaching, he does not say in positive ways to encourage students. This method of teaching to help students achieve the desired objectives, is very effective, and students used this approach to human relationships, but also equally effective.
principle there is a relationship is to others talk about, which is a method often used salesman. Haiya Li City, Florida, parts and equipment company Jiang Health Manager George. Orr have the very great importance to this principle. He knows he has a fault, that is, if he to talk, and often will issue to the topic. to remind myself not to forget this principle, in his briefcase and put up a comic book, painted a villain, you've never seen a pair of big teeth, but also There is a big mouth. Every time he opened the bag, this is the first to see comic exaggeration. He reported that: problem and let people go on, so I know what he wants. In fact, it is because I let him talk, but also pay attention to hear him talk, to make him happy and I signed the contract. Lun. Meiyue Shi very angry and annoyed, he had just ordered a brand new car victory, this is his first car, very much like to try their hand on the road. But the last scheduled day of delivery on Wednesday , the car is yet to be, a company's technicians said next Monday, but still do not see the car when the time. Allen wanted to go cursed him up and asked for time-limited delivery of the vehicle, but he thought the card basic principles of resistance, but will instead run a friendly attitude to it. He is there to ask him any special mechanics problems, mechanics, car parts that have been sent to the dealers come, but he is a name of the police, Last weekend a tornado swept neighboring town, he Feng emergency orders to help, hard day for two hours sleep a night, so no time loading up the car. Allen listen to him talk about tornadoes, and his work in relief the role, but also to praise him about it, and expressed understanding of why he had not time delivery of the vehicle. Allen also said that though the car wanted to get breakfast, but do not want to urge him to hurry. The next day Allen received a telephone technicians, that the car has been installed, you can pick up at five o'clock in the afternoon. time to get him to the car, and technicians who Tanleyikuai, delivered a thank him, and then paid the money to car dealers.
he is how to make mechanic drove his car equipped with it? mechanic told Allen, although he went to carry out police duties, was a lot of work to do, but the morning at five o'clock to go to work, should be done immediately as the car assembly Allen , busy all day, and before the call to Alan after work so that he can get to the car that night. Alan strong urging not to, and listen to the story mechanics that he, Allen not only quickly obtained to the car, and made friends with the mechanic.
Leike Wu City, Colorado, a woman by the application of this principle, and have been a senior executive of cooperation, promotion of women in her company's benefit plans. She know that the charge would have opposed the plan, he often said that women should stay at home.
very beautiful picture, and he told me how to get these pictures, and photos of them said something interesting features.
. When he spoke, as the place that I can agree to agree to his views, and as much as possible to ask him questions, I asked him to comment as much as possible. In conversation among, I told him I was' old school 'people, I think a person can get paid to work and can not do nothing but want to pay what the whole world, making him the new title can be played again. Our meeting lasted longer than expected as many as twenty minutes I heard urging his men rang his voice, they are waiting for him outside the office, go to the meeting.
said the head of our meeting to discuss things, and for us to win the approval of other authorities. over others to win. So he said, if you want to win the energetic, capable people on your side, you have to challenge him.
Fu Ji Pixi New York City to participate in the Carnegie Training Lei Feng, the application of this principle, as his company has successfully cultivated a talent manager. He said:
to promote him, and appointed him to chair a store. the beginning of his problems but is very difficult to have the final result, many good, creative way to eventually die a natural death. even if he clearly pointed out the problems, there is no way to solve this problem. Therefore, I asked him is not 'can' manage my store. My approach is to challenge him, if he says he can not, I would ask him why, if he says he can, it shows that I caught him because he wanted to prove he can.
He can always ask me question. One day later, obviously, he can not handle I thought he could handle some of the files. desk a mess, there is no archive file, which does not provide the goods ordered, no one clear What is the worksheet. But to find out if the problem after all they gradually took to the track, we have a new arrangement.
responsible for the daily business, I would have time to study the new plan. We are growing together, mutual understanding, so much work to improve all aspects of the store. If the other company sent him to open a store, I will miss him, but he has to make their own to run out, and is confident to become a competent manager. More importantly, you carry this thing on their own ability in the end, they have to have more confidence.
give teenagers a challenge and often effective approach. Pennsylvania Dayton Allen Chan Mushi. Bert, Chris said he and his daughter, the case of a frank private conversation. like to participate in band, like the honor band, so listen to her say, it makes me surprised. She said she thought the band more and more meaningless things. Chris things halfway is not a child, she always carry out in the end do not easily change his mind. I said it was up to her to decide, if we can finish this semester off and then left the band, which is in itself an achievement. I pointed out that her past achievements, and her doing always obtained a satisfactory situation, she learned horse riding school was excellent, learned to swim but also highly skilled. Our conversation interrupted for a time, and then she said proudly, 'Dad, I will stay in the band, will not let it not dry. 'Chris accepted my challenge. As this is her decision, she would do things according to the decision. good people? how to teach and others to establish a better relationship? Clearly, only requires students to Application. each person to apply them in life. to teach them, there must be full of teachers to understand power and cooperation of students, as well as in life and in the classroom the opportunity to try out these principles. is often the case there is a student aware of their own and others have the same problem, therefore, aware of their need to change attitudes, behavior, even lifestyles.
the first card, New York City, the right of a student, said of his eighty-year-old grandmother asked him to come home living situation. man is a very independent person, like themselves to do things. In order to maintain her independence, she became a little unbearable mm She said she can handle their own thing, not like other people to help. I think she really say is that she and her in our family have enjoyed a certain kind of love relationship. I did not see this until you hear a student talking about how to help an old pro Normally, I did not know. He is the principle used by the old man absorbed in the real interest, and try to understand her need. classmate said, so to put their relationship completely changed the original, the original to worry about harm the elderly nerves turned into sincere friendship and concern. listened to him talk, I think the relationship between me and my grandmother. From then on, I spend more time and get along with her, I feel happier than before she and I certainly happier. parents, that the more better. . friend, an acquaintance or the people who know the business and become better friends. Jeffrey Boston, Massachusetts. Lee Richards reports:
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